When does a child understand language? Very young children may understand a message by the tone of voice rather than the words. They will feel the love even if they do not understand the words. Even very small children can discern the difference between love and fear. We know that babies in the womb respond…
Absolutely. From the moment of birth – and even before birth, professionals now believe – thoughts, feelings, reactions and memories are registered in the deep unconscious mind, and those memories, with the accompanying thoughts, feelings, emotions and reactions, will last for life. Suggestions are very powerful, especially when made to a child by someone in…
Most parents I’ve talked to admit that sometimes they say things to their child that they don’t mean or later regret saying. According to American Psychotherapist Antonia Van Der Meer, a parent’s temporary loss of control may, unfortunately, mean permanent heartache for the child if nothing is done to correct that impression. For example, when…
Most children have problems so my answer is yes. Some parents say, “But my child doesn’t have any problems”; however, children often don’t share their problems with others, especially not their parents. I know I didn’t share my problems with my parents and I think many children today are the same. Also, one of the…
I’m delighted to tell you the end result. Although Michelle still has an intellectual and emotional IQ of around 45 and still has to deal with the physical impairments of cerebral palsy and dyspraxia, she has been happily married since 1990, lives independently with her husband, travels independently and can cook you a mean breakfast…
It was one morning after we had used the Process for about 3 months. Michelle was coming downstairs for breakfast and I found myself anticipating another angry and disconnected outburst when she walked into the room. All the same, I asked her “How are you today, darling?” I will never forget what happened next. She…
My personal story will answer this question! In 1966 my first born, Michelle, was everything I had ever wanted. She seemed well and gurgled happily like most babies do. When her sister arrived 13 months later, I started to realise that Michelle had not hit the milestones that her sister passed with ease, and she…
The Goulding Process is an alternative and substance-free, self-help process for parents coping with a challenging child. Sometimes a lack of knowledge or support can cause parents to doubt their parenting abilities, feel misunderstood and go on a merry-go-round of endless professional consultations and dead ends. SleepTalk for Children is a simple, ethical, non-intrusive process…